Adjusting Halloween Expectations

IMG_20151031_181217-1-1Every parent has expectations of Holidays. These visions will vary depending on Religion, Culture, and Individual family Traditions.
I expected Halloween with a 7-year-old to look like this:
Trick or Treating would be costumed children running in a pack from house to house in the race for MORE CANDY! I would have expected my little boy to argue or plead with me to stay out later or to go to just one more house. Later everyone would get together to rehash the night and compare candy hauls while eating themselves sick. (A time-honoured tradition)

Evan has what is referred to as high functioning Autism, so we have had to adjust what our expectations are. For us the important thing is that he has fun and that he enjoys as much of the experience as he wants to.

Most years he is sick around Halloween, this year we were happy because he was healthy and we weren’t dragging him out when he wasn’t feeling well.
He wore his Luigi costume that he chose with his dad and loved, and allowed his dad to paint a mustache on him. (I can’t tell you how HUGE this is)
We went Trick or Treating as a family, no pack of kids to race with but he was excited to run into a friend from school. He walked from house to house carefully navigating the stairs and the pumpkins. (He has balance issues) After little more than an hour he was done, instead of him begging to stay out he had us urging him to just finish the street before we went home.

We have enough candy said no child ever on Halloween…. Except for Evan

At the end of the night he was happy with his haul but didn’t ask for any.  I gave him a bag of chips which he quietly ate while going through the Avengers Comic book he got at one house. (Best treat ever!)
He had a great night, it wasn’t quite what we would have expected but he was happy, he participated and most importantly he had fun.

Have you had to change your holiday traditions or expectations’?

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Lee-AnneRMT

Bringing serenity to others through Massage Therapy since 2010.

4 thoughts on “Adjusting Halloween Expectations”

  1. Thanks for sharing this wonderful experience Lee-Anne. It feels so nice to hear that Evan had a great time trick-o-treating and eating chips.

    I have noticed that individuals on the spectrum have the knack of knowing when their limit is reached. And they don’t push beyond it, but take time to rejuvenate. That’s probably why Evan didn’t insist on staying out for long.

    1. Hi Kamin,
      Thanks for visiting! Yes Evan knew what his limits were and we totally respected them. I think it’s important to recognize that my expectations (before I had him)of Halloween didn’t make his Halloween night any less fun or valid for not being what I expected. Let me know if there is anything you would like to see on here.
      Lee-Anne

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